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06 February 2010

Thanks, But No Thanks!

Yesterday I turned down a job offer.

Well, it wasn’t a formal offer, but I had a good feeling it was going to be.

Normally, that would be VERY exciting news considering my current unemployment status, but as usual, it’s not that simple.

A few months ago, I was offered, and accepted, a one-month job across the country, helping out a company that requested my services.

It was a great experience, especially getting an opportunity to get back into the mix.

When I took the one-month job, I really wasn’t sure if it was just one month or if it was more of a trial to see if I could be a fit for them on a full-time basis.

I really enjoyed the work and enjoyed doing what I have done for the last 25 years. The upper management treated me with a tremendous amount of respect and really made me feel comfortable.

I was told that I was being brought in to help make their product better and give feedback to the employees to help make them better.

In case you were wondering, feedback is code for criticism.

Believe it or not, nobody and I mean NOBODY wants to be told that they are wrong, even if they ask for it.

When someone tells you, “just give it to me straight”, THEY ARE LYING.

What made this one-month job a little more challenging was that I was asked by the big bosses to make the product better, but I was working directly with a group that hadn’t been told they were doing anything wrong.

Well my problem with the one-month job was not with the job or with the employees, but rather with the person managing that department.

He clearly felt that there was nothing wrong, even though his managers felt different.

He didn’t like it that I was there.

He didn’t like it why I was there.

And I guess, the bottom line is, he didn’t like me.

I made it through the month, meeting with as many people as I could delivering feedback like it was a Domino’s pizza.

Every, well almost every employee appreciated the conversations, claiming that they had never been told anything before.

I made a point, as much as I really didn’t like their manager, to make sure I did not knock him in ANY shape or form.

Was it my mom or Carol Brady who once said, treat someone how you would like to be treated yourself.... or something like that.

Well, after the month was over, including the last two weeks where the manager barely acknowledged me being there, my service was done.

I met with the bosses with the ties and big offices and gave them my review -- all of it.

I gave them ideas of how to get better.

I gave them things I tried to implement to get better.

And I gave them the honest lowdown on how I was treated by the man in charge.

By that point, I knew that I had showed enough to be considered for a full-time job in the future and I wanted to make it clear that working for somebody who wouldn’t talk to me was not a position that I was going to apply for.

They thanked me and said they would be in touch.

Fast forward to yesterday, where one of the upper managers, notified me that there was a position that they would be making available in a couple of weeks.

He didn’t say as much, but I felt like he was offering me the job.

He also said that I would be reporting to the existing manager -- the guy who wanted nothing to do with me.

So let me get this straight, I was being asked to move my family across country to a job where my direct boss would not want me there, but I was being brought in to change the environment without the power to do it.

Thanks, but no thanks.

Now considering, that I have NO other job offers and very few leads, it feels very strange to turn down that opportunity as fast as I did.

But one part of life that is always going to be important to me is my happiness and as I told the big boss yesterday, I don’t want to be in a job where I wouldn’t want to come to work.

I’m not sure how much longer I will be able to be picky, but for now, I have no doubt I made the right decision.

I hope.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Treating someboby they way you want to be treated?...No it wasn;t Carol Brady...it is in the Bible

Anonymous said...

Take the job.

You would be reporting to the manager in name only. You are his replacement. Your boss would be the suit who hired you.

The staff already knows that.

Don't move your family for 4 months. Live out of a suitcase.

scalerious said...

I am in a very similar situation. A year and a half ago I was hired back to a company I had left (as you say) "to change the environment without the power to do it." I would be in a new department but utilizing all of the skills from my previous department to change the current one.

It has been a car wreck in slow motion. But with the economy the way it is, my hands are tied to move anywhere else.

You did the right thing, but I would ask, if the job did not involve relocation, would you have accepted?

Sir Bacon said...

Scalerious -- the answer to your last question is Y-E-S!

I would welcome the challenge of taking on that job and the obstacles that come with it, but to move my family thousands of miles away for a situation that would be miserable, at best, is not worth it.

Fortunately, happiness is still at the top of my priority list.

I hope I can keep it that way.

Anonymous said...

"Old Ned" was our local "nut" in our west shore community on the Mississipi before the flood we all had been warned of and the upcoming and potential danger. Old Ned refused to get out even when the waters were rising and they came to his home (he was on the porch) and they told him to "get in". Well he replied "God will take care of me" and to go away. . . Well, the waters got higher and they came again, this time with a larger boat and he was up on the roof. Again he refused saying "God would save him" and to go away. Finally, the water was above the roof and he was clinging to the chimmney and they tried to get him to strap on the safety line from the helecopter and again he said the same thing. . ."God will save him.". . .Well. . He was swept away and they never found him but he appeared at Heavens Gate and God said to him "Wow. . .Old Ned. . what are you doing here?
Ned replied. ."well, Lord, I had all this faith in you and I was sure you would save me". . .

God replied. . . . "I sent you two boats and a helicopter". . .

You can't go back to them now and have "changed your mind" Like the previous post. . .I guess I would phrase it like this. . .Assuming you had the job they offered you. . .location. . potential. . etc etcc and your situation is such that if you were offered to leave and relocate and become "unemployed". . .your situation is such you "would do it"???

Anonymous said...

You did the right thing. Being miserable at a job you spend more time with than your family sucks. Trust me.